'FT' doesnt mean ' Ham-fisted '
but i do agree, dont over tighten alloy wheels, and also ensure you have the correct wheel nuts for your particular wheels, as the ones for steel wheels will chew up alloys and make them unusable due to the damage caused
if in doubt, do it by the book
another safety feature i follow is to put the caps ( for the nuts or the actual wheel ) in the boot while doing the work, the action of having to get the cover after she is dropped to the ground reminds me to ' check ' the tightness of everything with the bar before fitting the covers ,
well, it works for me anyway , lol
BB